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Life's too Short..

  Years of dealing with racism, heartbreak, and being a public figure on social media (a place where people aim to destroy you from the comforts of their keyboard), has created a very thick skin on me. Nothing #Trump tweets, no matter how stupid, is going to get under my skin and ruin my day, I've been through worse. In this industry, I've been used, abused, chewed up, and spit out, and I learned that nothing good comes from taking it personally (and taking things personally used to be my superpower, I'm a Cancer after all). Now that I don't get offended, I've freed up quite a bit of time every day, that I can use to do more important things, like...

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MOVE ON!!

Bad shit is going to happen, and bad feelings are going to come from that bad shit, and that's normal. It's even normal to feel sorry for ourselves when bad shit happens to us, sometimes folks sink a little too deep into self-pity and then bad shit turns to worse shit. Feeling sorry for ourselves helps us feel connected to something, but if we do it too much, we begin to isolate ourselves from everything and everyone else. People who use self-pity aren't bad people, they may just not have explored other ways to feel better. We gotta do what we gotta do to feel better and heal, so we can keep moving. I respect that healing takes time, but I also...

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Share Your Magic

  When I met thesandylion, she was an intimidating and stylish monster, stealing all the oxygen out of the room with her unfairly symmetrical face. To add to the mystic, she was private on Instagram. After a little poking, she went public and started by sharing pictures of outfits laid out on the floor. Slowly, over time, she continued to evolve her content and showed the world how to feel good about themselves through their own personal style; no expensive clothes needed, just some creativity and bravery. Whenever brands reached out to her to model, she delivered in front of the camera, and then showed them her genius behind the scenes, styling red carpet looks for celebs, music videos, and photo...

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How to Find Strength in Vulnerability

  After my umpteenth heartbreak, I devoted myself to a life of self-sustainability. When we’re in relationships we can become co-dependent, and when those relationships end, it feels like we have to learn how to put ourself first again. There’s no one to talk about your day to, no one you have to run important life decisions by, no one to take into consideration anymore. At first this is the loneliest shit ever, but eventually you get the hang of it, and you see the benefits of it. For me, it got to the point where I cringed at the idea of getting close to anyone. I justified this by saying I was a free spirit, and had better things...

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We're Either Making Progress or Excuses..

  We can read motivational quotes forever, but unless we make the decision to start before we feel ready, we’re not going to make much progress. I’ve been there, in bed 18 hours a day, hoping my problems would figure themselves out, or someone would come save the day and be my hero. As we grow from children to adults, we not only have to be more independent, we also have to let go of the idea that anyone else is going to make our problems theirs. Some of us need encouragement, while others can simply be told to SUCK IT UP, either way, the responsibility lies with us, and no one else. It doesn’t matter if THEY betrayed us,...

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