You Won't Be Here Forever
Sep 09, 2020
When anyone would share their pain, I would quickly try to solve their problem, tell them to stop complaining, or distract them from what they were feeling, when all they wanted was an ear and a brave space to share it.
I recently realized I did this because I was struggling to sit with my own pain. Hearing their pain triggered mine, and I would do everything I could to make that feeling go away.
We can’t wish pain away, we have to sit with it, listen to it, learn from it, and then grow from it.
This is new territory from me, and I designed a life around avoiding the vulnerabilities of others to avoid my own, but I’m committed to practicing it.
Now people text me their problems and I try to be there actively and add some support. Most of the time it isn’t advice, it’s an empathetic ear, replying only to show I understand them, and they’re not alone.
I’m not perfect at it, but I want to get better, for those that I care about, and for myself.
Life is too short to avoid the unpleasant things, especially since none of us are making it out alive.
Let’s redefine our relationship worth our pain, see it as an important teacher, instead of the schoolyard bully we need to avoid. #Bless
If you made it this far, text me 917-636-4159 🙂
I recently realized I did this because I was struggling to sit with my own pain. Hearing their pain triggered mine, and I would do everything I could to make that feeling go away.
We can’t wish pain away, we have to sit with it, listen to it, learn from it, and then grow from it.
This is new territory from me, and I designed a life around avoiding the vulnerabilities of others to avoid my own, but I’m committed to practicing it.
Now people text me their problems and I try to be there actively and add some support. Most of the time it isn’t advice, it’s an empathetic ear, replying only to show I understand them, and they’re not alone.
I’m not perfect at it, but I want to get better, for those that I care about, and for myself.
Life is too short to avoid the unpleasant things, especially since none of us are making it out alive.
Let’s redefine our relationship worth our pain, see it as an important teacher, instead of the schoolyard bully we need to avoid. #Bless
If you made it this far, text me 917-636-4159 🙂