If you pay attention closely, you'll notice that people who had the least freedom to live on their own terms, either go overboard when they're finally free, or impose those same sanctions on others; both are heartbreaking. We enter this world alone, and we leave it the same, and as important as it is to have healthy relationships with others, it should never come at the price of losing ourselves. I'm designing the life I want. This does not guarantee me any type of special everlasting happiness, but it does ensure that I can own my decisions and eat the consequences that come with it. I have no one to blame if things don't go well, and that's a freedom I value closely. As Kanye West so wisely said "This is my life homey, you decide yours". It's so easy to get into other people's business, because it let's us avoid the bullshit in our own.
Everyone reading this is feeling the weight of someone else's expectations of them. I'm not encouraging you to throw two middle fingers up and do what you want. I'm encouraging you to fix your posture, stand up for yourself, and have a conversation with these people. I'm not promising communication will fix it all, but the weight will feel less in the long term (short term may be very uncomfortable, be mindful of that). While you're at it, be mindful of the expectations you've placed on others, and decide if it's fair to do so, and what pressure you may be adding to their life. This is your life, paint it how you want, and allow room for others to do the same. #BLESS
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